Title: Ordinary Girls
Author: Jaquira DΓaz
Genre: Memoir
Published On: October 29, 2019
(Paperback on June 16, 2020)
Publisher: Algonquin Books
Source: ebook
Pages: 336
Synopsis:
One of the Must-Read Books of 2019 According to O: The Oprah Magazine * Time * Bustle * Electric Literature * Publishers Weekly * The Millions * The Week * Good Housekeeping
βThere is more life packed on each page of Ordinary Girls than some lives hold in a lifetime.β βJulia Alvarez
In this searing memoir, Jaquira DΓaz writes fiercely and eloquently of her challenging girlhood and triumphant coming of age.
While growing up in housing projects in Puerto Rico and Miami Beach, DΓaz found herself caught between extremes. As her family split apart and her mother battled schizophrenia, she was supported by the love of her friends. As she longed for a family and home, her life was upended by violence. As she celebrated her Puerto Rican culture, she couldnβt find support for her burgeoning sexual identity. From her own struggles with depression and sexual assault to Puerto Ricoβs history of colonialism, every page of Ordinary Girls vibrates with music and lyricism. DΓaz writes with raw and refreshing honesty, triumphantly mapping a way out of despair toward love and hope to become her version of the girl she always wanted to be.
Reminiscent of Tara Westoverβs Educated, Kiese Laymonβs Heavy, Mary Karrβs The Liarsβ Club, and Terese Marie Mailhotβs Heart Berries, Jaquira DΓazβs memoir provides a vivid portrait of a life lived in (and beyond) the borders of Puerto Rico and its complicated historyβand reads as electrically as a novel.
(All the trigger warnings.)
My thoughts
Ordinary Girls is not an easy read. It’s shocking, sad, and honest. Jaquira DΓaz holds nothing back as she tells her story. But as someone who should not have survived, her story is also inspiring, a reminder that every voice deserves to be heard, that every life has meaning.
“Weβre supposed to love our mothers. Weβre supposed to trust them and need them and miss them when theyβre gone. But what if that same person, the one whoβs supposed to love you more than anyone else in the world, the one whoβs supposed to protect you, is also the one who hurts you the most?”
Jaquira DΓaz, Ordinary Girls
Born in Puerto Rico, relocating to Miami, and living in the projects, Jaquira suffers many abuses—at the hands of her family, her peers, and strangers. Her life is a daily struggle as she grapples with her place in her family, racism, and her own identity. She finds solace with her friends, her fellow ‘ordinary girls.’ It is those friendships that will give her the strength to eventually find a better path.
“Living with Mami meant we could never have friends over, could never have birthday parties or sleepovers like all those normal, ordinary girls. We were afraid our friends would find out about her madness, her drug use, her violent outbursts. So we kept it to ourselves, our secret shame, hiding bruises from teachers and classmates.”
Jaquira DΓaz, Ordinary Girls
Reading Ordinary Girls is like listening to a close friend tell the story of their life—a story you haven’t heard before. A story that shouldn’t be true. As you listen, it’s mostly chronological, but sometimes it weaves a bit, including pieces from the history of Puerto Rico, stories about other women with their own powerful messages, weaving the stories that make the author’s message complete.
So much happens in this book that is not included in the synopsis. So much that touches on current events—the lack of help for women struggling with mental illness, the challenging obstacles that queer women of color face every day, and even the insufficient response from Trump during Hurricane Maria.
“I know something about the in-between, of being seen but not really seen. I have lived there my whole life. I mean quite literally that Iβm a child of colonialism, born into poverty on an island that was seized and exploited, first by Spanish colonizers, then by Americans. My family, although theyβre also US citizens, are colonial subjects, and most of what we know about our black family is limited because of slavery. We can trace as far back as Haiti, but before then, nothing. Like most black people in the US, the Caribbean, and Latin America, our histories, our cultures, our people, were stolen.”
Jaquira DΓaz, Ordinary Girls
Ordinary Girls is an important story.Β Β One we need to learn from. We must find a way to help those who are struggling to help themselves. See their faces.Β Β And hear their voices.
Thank you to the publisher, Algonquin Books, for providing me with an advance copy.
Rating: [usr 5.0]
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A Song For A Book
On Bookstagram I created a hashtag for when I include a song that reminds me of the book I’m sharing, #ASongForABook, I thought I’d make it a regular feature on my reviews, too.
Jaquira mentions many artists and songs throughout Ordinary Girls, and the reader can hear their influence as her story unfolds with a lyrical pulse. She mentions Lauryn Hill a few times, and specifically her album The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill, so I chose the title song to share here:
My world it moves so fast today
The past it seems so far away
And life squeezes so tight that I can’t breathe
And every time I try to be, what someone else has thought of me
So caught up, I wasn’t able to achieve
But deep in my heart, the answer it was in me
And I made up my mind to define my own destiny
I look at my environment
And wonder where the fire went
What happened to everything we used to be
I hear so many cry for help
Searching outside of themselves
Now I know that his strength is within me
And deep in my heart, the answer it was in me
And I made up my mind to define my own destiny
And deep in my heart
And deep in my heart, the answer it was in me
And I made up my mind to define my own destiny
Have you read Ordinary Girls? Did you add it to your tbr? Let me know in the comments!
I haven’t heard of this but it sounds like an incredible read! The kind of book that has a deep effect on you, I love books like that. Definitely sounds like an important story to be told. Thanks for sharing, great review!
Anika | chaptersofmay.com
Exactly! I do think it’s an important story, and I hope it gets plenty of attention. Thank you for reading! <3